《100個爸爸送給你的真愛語錄》:如果時光能倒流,讓你給15歲的自己一個建議,你會說什麼?

《100個爸爸送給你的真愛語錄》:如果時光能倒流,讓你給15歲的自己一個建議,你會說什麼?
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文:Jonathan Brody

A good relationship isn’t a 50/50 split of the work and responsibility. It’s 60/40, with each of you trying to give 60%.

一段良好的關係並非只是百分之五十工作與百分之五十責任的分配,它應該是百分之六十與百分之四十的比例,而你們兩個都想付出那百分之六十。


If your guy doesn't open up, it’s because we've been conditioned to act tough or strong, no matter how we actually feel. It takes a lot of trust for a guy to show his feelings to other people.

如果你的男伴不敞開心胸,那是因為無論我們的真實感受如何,我們都已經被調教成必須表現出強悍或堅強的樣子。要一個男人向他人展示自己的感受需要得到他非常多的信任。


If a guy doesn't pick up on your hints and signals, that doesn't mean that he isn't paying attention or is stupid. It means you’re not communicating openly and clearly. Say what you want.

如果一個男人沒能領悟到你的暗示和訊息,並不表示他沒有注意到或是太過愚笨,而是表示妳沒有公開且明白的溝通。妳想要什麼就直說吧。


Show respect and consideration for her parents. By respecting them, you're also showing respect for her.

要尊重及關心她的父母。藉由尊重他們,你也表現出對她的尊重。


A relationship is a two way street. If your man supports you mentally and emotionally, lifts you up and takes an interest in your goals and dreams, it’s not because it’s expected of him. He does it because he’s wants you to be happy, and because he’s happy to be with you. You have to do the same for him.

親密關係是一條雙向道。如果你的男人在精神上和情緒上支持你,讓你振作起來,並對你的目標和夢想感到興趣,而不是為了迎合別人對他的期待。他之所以這樣做,是因為他希望妳快樂,而且他也能跟妳一起感到快樂。這時候妳必須為他做同樣的事。


Accept your partner for who they are and do not try to change them.

接受你的伴侶原本的樣子,不要試圖改變他們。


Don’t approach every relationship as “this is the one I’m going to marry”. Just have fun and enjoy yourself.

不要用「這就是我想結婚的對象」這樣的想法來展開每一段的親密關係。你只需要玩得開心,然後盡情享受。


Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.

女人註定要被愛,而不是被理解。


Everybody says this, but relationships really are all about communication. Ask. Don't assume you know what they meant or how they feel. Make compromises. Listen and make yourself heard. Ladies: don't spend so much time overthinking. Guys usually say what they mean without some secret meaning or agenda.

大家都這麼說,但男女關係真的就是完全的溝通。開口去問,不要以為你知道她們的意思或感受。要懂得讓步妥協。傾聽他人,也讓他人聽見你。女士們總是不想花太多時間在過度思考;而男人們經常會直接說出他們的意思,不帶有任何隱藏的意圖或作為。



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